Hey girl ..

We are made in God’s image. (Genesis 1:26-27)

Fearfully and wonderfully made, that is. (Psalm 139:14)

We are chosen. (1 Peter 2:9)

We are the dwelling space for the Holy Spirit. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

Hey girl...

I see you. I’ve been in your shoes. I know exactly what you are dealing with. You feel like you are empty inside. You are confused on the actions to take next. You want to free yourself from what’s holding you down but you don’t know where to start.

You used to have confidence. You used to feel free and feel like your whole life was under control. But somewhere along the way, you started to let other people think on your behalf. As soon as you did that, you gave them the power to control you, the power to determine your worth. Before you knew it, you couldn't even recognize yourself. You were trying to express your love for another so much that you stopped loving yourself in the process. You became dependent. You started to define yourself by the things other people made you believe about yourself. It’s a scary place to be. It’s a lonely place to be. Somehow they convinced you that you are crazy, unworthy of love, and completely worthless without them.

I've been in your shoes. I wasted precious years of my life allowing another person to determine who I was. I let pride hold me back from breaking free because I wanted to prove everyone wrong. I wanted to even prove to myself that I could make the relationship work no matter the amount of verbal, physical, and emotional abuse thrown my way. I fought tooth and nail.

Friend, learning to love yourself is the bravest thing you can ever do to impact your future and your story. Learn to stand on your own two feet in order to decipher what is actually your truth vs. the lies that have been used to control. When the thoughts in your head are telling you that you’re not enough, that you’re not pretty enough, that you’re not skinny enough, that you’re not athletic enough, that you’re not good enough... Ask yourself, where are these thoughts coming from? Just because a person can tell us something over and over again about ourselves does not mean that we need to believe it. We can find a way to make a shift.

I am here to tell you that its not easy, but it's worth it. After years of hate, lies, and darkness, it's not an easy process to erase the scars left on my life. Every day I still have to work to focus on my inner light, my truth, my voice. Every day I take the time to seek and choose the love God intended for my life. Every day I remind myself what I know to be true.

We are made in God’s image. (Genesis 1:26-27)

Fearfully and wonderfully made, that is. (Psalm 139:14)

We are chosen. (1 Peter 2:9)

We are the dwelling space for the Holy Spirit. (1 Corinthians 6:19-20)

Most of the time we like to chose the easy way out. We don’t want to put in the hard work required to allow ourselves to be free from the lies, fears, and bondage that might often hold us down. We would rather continue with the status quo, putting up with darkness and hardship because we are so paralyzed by the unknown. Why do we choose to stay in a toxic environment?

Compromise and justification cloud the truth of God’s desire for your life. Choose what you know deep down is true even when it’s inconvenient are hard. The truth is that you are worthy and that you can have the life God intended for you. You can love again after years of abuse. You can choose to have faith over fear. You can choose to search for you identity in Christ and find your confidence in Him.

Friend, I see you. I have been in your shoes. I am ready to work with you. I am ready to help you find your worth even when your life feels depleted. I am ready to do the work that's required, together. I know the struggle and the commitment that it takes, I do it everyday. Are you ready to join me?

xo