Perfectionism paralyzes potential. God has always used imperfect people in imperfect situations to get his will done. Ecclesiastes 11:4 says, “If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done.” You have to trust God and start moving forward in spite of your problems, fears, and doubts.
Letting go is the secret to freeing you from pain. In letting go, we allow change to impact our lives. And even though many of us struggle with change --- we most often enjoy comfort and familiarity --- the life we strive for can only begin to exist when we release what is no longer working.
I see it all the time. Women keep going back to the same situation, the one that causes us to feel broken, to lose sight of our own value. Imagine for a second what your life would look like if you knew your worth and left a bad relationship at the first sign of abuse? Think about all the precious years we waste just by hoping that a person will change so that we can live the life we know we were designed to live. We waste so many years, years that could be spent recovering, learning to love yourself within your own skin. We spend so much time focusing on the ones that aren’t capable of loving us that we miss out of the ones that can love us like we’ve never experienced before.
If you know me well you'll know that I'm rather careful when it comes to spending money. Which is why when I shop I always struggle to invest in the things I want most, no matter how big or small they might be. My husband always likes to say, "Buy it now and enjoy it for longer." And in so many way's he's right. If I know I want something, if I know that the simple investment of time and energy (or money) will help me to live the life I most strive for, if it will help me to get to where I need to be... why shouldn't I have the ability to enjoy this life sooner rather than later?
When it comes to difficult or abusive relationships, I know first hand how difficult it can be to make the change you know you most need. But why not let go of it now so that you can enjoy the life you are meant to live for longer? Letting go of what you know deep down isn't right can be hard; I get it, trust me. I know first hand what it’s like to be with narcissistic, abusive personalities. That said, on the other hand, I also now know what it's like to be loved by a man who views me as a daughter of God and who loves me the way I've always deserved to be loved. The way all women deserve to be loved. I am so thankful that God helped me to find the strength to pull me out of a place that I knew deep down wasn't right. I worked daily to heal from the inside out and I learned not to settle until I could see Christ within my relationship.
In the end, I quickly learned that I wasn’t strong enough to do it on my own. I had to dive head first into what a Godly relationship looked like. I prayed consistently that I would be obedient enough to listen and wise enough to take the leap when the time was right. After all, when you rely on the word of God, you don’t panic because you are reminded that even though something is out of your control, it’s not out of God’s control.
A dead-end is a test of faith. And while some of you might feel as though you are at a dead-end in the here and now, things are never as bleak as they seem. You are looking at it from the human viewpoint rather than from God’s viewpoint. "Pile your troubles on God’s shoulders – he’ll carry your load, he’ll help you out." Psalm 55:22
You are not alone. It is my mission to help as many woman as possible to find HOPE when they need it the most. If you are looking for help, please don’t waste any more time. It's time to reach out and to enjoy the life you are meant to live, for longer!